Confidence is not about ‘knowing’ everything but it is about ‘trusting’ your abilities that you can handle anything! Everyone (including YOU) already owns the confidence needed in every circumstances.
But then you may ask why do we feel ups and downs in the confidence we carry?
My dear friend, it’s not due to absence of confidence but it’s due to presence of some other things in your mind. These things are
– Bad beliefs (B),
– Fear (F),
– Bad memories about past events or past critics (M),
– Doubts (D) and
– Your Dependencies (De) on some people or things.
Imagine an old fashioned weighing scale. On one side it’s confidence and on the other side it’s other things – B, F, M, D & De.
Whichever weighs high sends the signal to your mind and your mind just displays what signal it gets.
When the other things seem big, we automatically tell ourselves that we don’t have the confidence. The word to look for is ‘seem’. That means it may not be real. Other things just appear to be big.
Now for any reason, if you feel, you have a confidence problem then what can you do about it?
The answer is “First Make Yourself Trustworthy (in your own eyes)” and for that start with these 2-Steps.
1. Positive Self Talk:
But then you may ask why do we feel ups and downs in the confidence we carry?
My dear friend, it’s not due to absence of confidence but it’s due to presence of some other things in your mind. These things are
– Bad beliefs (B),
– Fear (F),
– Bad memories about past events or past critics (M),
– Doubts (D) and
– Your Dependencies (De) on some people or things.
Imagine an old fashioned weighing scale. On one side it’s confidence and on the other side it’s other things – B, F, M, D & De.
Whichever weighs high sends the signal to your mind and your mind just displays what signal it gets.
When the other things seem big, we automatically tell ourselves that we don’t have the confidence. The word to look for is ‘seem’. That means it may not be real. Other things just appear to be big.
Now for any reason, if you feel, you have a confidence problem then what can you do about it?
The answer is “First Make Yourself Trustworthy (in your own eyes)” and for that start with these 2-Steps.
1. Positive Self Talk:
Remember this Golden Rule from Brain Tracy: No one is better than you and No one is smarter than you. If they seem better or smarter, they have just started before you.
My friend, instead of self- sabotaging, help your inner core to get better.
Sabotaging hurts but support helps to prepare you to create miracles in the future.
It doesn’t matter where you are if you know where you are going. Focus on your talents and skills. No body is perfect. And don’t even fall in the trap of waiting to be perfect. I have a powerful saying in my personal diary and it is: Focus on Excellence not perfection because perfection is a perception and it keeps changing.
2. Plan and Prepare:
My friend, instead of self- sabotaging, help your inner core to get better.
Sabotaging hurts but support helps to prepare you to create miracles in the future.
It doesn’t matter where you are if you know where you are going. Focus on your talents and skills. No body is perfect. And don’t even fall in the trap of waiting to be perfect. I have a powerful saying in my personal diary and it is: Focus on Excellence not perfection because perfection is a perception and it keeps changing.
2. Plan and Prepare:
Stay ready for the unknowns by developing some preset strategies to deal with them. In our day to day life we cannot avoid unknowns or unwanted surprises but we can definitely deal with them by predefined set of actions.
One of my coaching clients had come up with a method called as 3-Seconds. He has trained himself to wait for 3-Seconds before he give reply to any unknowns or unwanted surprises and it works because
(a) He doesn’t instantly lose his confidence and
(b) In that strong state he generally gets a better solution to deal with the situation. You can try it if you like.
If you follow above 2 steps, you’ll definitely feel improvement in your confidence.
One of my coaching clients had come up with a method called as 3-Seconds. He has trained himself to wait for 3-Seconds before he give reply to any unknowns or unwanted surprises and it works because
(a) He doesn’t instantly lose his confidence and
(b) In that strong state he generally gets a better solution to deal with the situation. You can try it if you like.
If you follow above 2 steps, you’ll definitely feel improvement in your confidence.
Keep in touch.
Be Unstoppable 👍🏻
- Sincerely Yours
Success Coach Nilesh
Branding - Marketing & Growth Strategist for Professionals, Executives & CEOs
See more at my website: www.SuccessCoachNilesh.com
- Sincerely Yours
Success Coach Nilesh
Branding - Marketing & Growth Strategist for Professionals, Executives & CEOs
See more at my website: www.SuccessCoachNilesh.com
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